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Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi

Posted in God, religion, theology by frthom on July 12, 2012

Prayer of St. Francis

Verse 1:
Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me bring your love.
Where there is injury, your pardon, Lord,
And where there’s doubt, true faith in you.

Verse 2:
Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there’s despair in life, let me bring hope.
Where there is darkness only light,
And where there’s sadness ever joy.

Oh Master, grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console.
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love with all my soul.

Verse 3:
Make me a channel of your peace.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
In giving of ourselves that we receive,
And in dying that we’re born to eternal life.

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“Please insert the square peg into the round hole…”

Posted in God, religion, theology by frthom on October 20, 2011

From time to time we all get unsolicited gifts in the mail from various religious organizations in their attempts to raise funds.  The gift could be as simple as personalized mailing labels, rosary beads, a miraculous medal, bingo chips, pope soap-on-a-roap, etc. 

A while back I received in the mail something from a Catholic religious order that still has me a bit puzzled.  It was a crucifix but it appeared to have been made by Furn-A-Kit or Bush or Sauder because it required some assembly. 

Included in the envelope was a finished wood crucifix that bore a relatively ornate plastic body of Jesus, along with a separate wood stand. Sauder would have labeled the crucifix “A” and the stand “B” and the directions would have read, “Insert crucifix A into stand B.” 

Seems simple enough, except for the fact that the part of the crucifix that is supposed to fit into the stand is square.  The hole in the stand is round. Literally a square peg into a round hole.

I didn’t save any of the literature that came along with my gift, although I did say a prayer of thanks for their generosity, hoping that they didn’t actually expect me to send them a donation.

Without knowing the source of the crucifix, I guess I’ll never truly understand whether the square peg/round hole was someone’s mistake; someone’s idea of a joke;  a divinely inspired parable; or punishment for my venial sin of accepting the gift without sending back a donation. 

Regardless of the intent, I can’t help but regard that gift as a profound statement about religion in the modern world.

God as Santa Claus (An Atheist’s Guide to Prayer)

Posted in Atheist, God, religion, theology by frthom on February 21, 2010

I originally wrote this essay in the form of a letter to an old friend, Marie, who was dying of cancer.  I was suggesting to her that praying might ease some of her pain if not bring about some divine insight to her disease.  I’ve always known my friend to be stubborn and that her 12 years of parochial school had turned her off to organized religion and to that God that Josiah Bartlett called a “feckless thug.” Indeed, she had become an agnostic, perhaps an atheist, most certainly a lapsed Catholic.  I wrote what follows with tongue partially in cheek to try to assuage her concerns that I might evangelically try to reconnect her with her estranged deity.  My primary goal was to use some reverse psychology to get my friend to pray, if only to bring her some inner peace.  In the eight months that followed, as death drew nearer with each passing day, Marie seemed to be doing just that. She died ten years ago today.

During my first day of class in the masters program at the Seminary of the Immaculate Conception, Father Catania sauntered into the classroom, said hello and then with increased passion, asked:

“Is there anyone in this room who believes that the Bible is God’s verbatim word to man, all true, chronicled events, God-said-it/I believe-it?  If so, please raise your hand.”  We were a bit too shocked to respond so there were no raised hands.

“Good.  Anyone who thinks that way doesn’t belong in graduate school.”

And so began my formal journey into the world of theology.  Having a mixed background in Christian, Quaker, and Jewish cultures, I had dabbled in religious theory, both in some independent study classes prior to my work at the Seminary as well as while covering some God-related stories for the NY Times.  In actuality, it was via an assignment for the Times that I stumbled upon the Seminary of the Immaculate Conception in the first place.

My theological view of the world did not really coincide with any one formal religious doctrine and, back then,  if I had to point to any one religious mentor it would probably have been Dennis Miller or George Carlin.  I loved Carlin’s line (similar to something Andy Rooney once said) that we may not know the answers to life’s mysteries, but why do we have to make up stories and fairy tales so that we might sleep at night? The energy should instead be expended toward uncovering truths, the absolutes, the science of what we see or believe.  But, despite George’s wisdom, we still have an allegorical rather than historical Bible, a Church run by a bunch of celibate old men, and people killing other people in the name of God.

The Old Testament (or the more politically correct term “Hebrew Scriptures”) seems to consist of page after page of Jewish suffering—weeping, wailing, gnashing of teeth—worse than anything you hear around any Long Island shopping mall as housewives and/or house husbands desperately fight for a parking space. Because they made the mistake of believing in one God instead of multiple gods or any one ruling king,  Jewish people in their early history were exiled, enslaved, demeaned, and persecuted. So much so, the prophet Jeremiah predicted that things had to take a turn for the better for the Jews (because things couldn’t get much worse,) that a messiah who would lead the Jews to the Promised Land would replace the covenant of Moses and the suffering would end.  Some of the less patient Jews decided that this interesting looking guy (somewhere between Willem Dafoe and James Caviezel,) who hung around with some interesting women, spoke in riddles, got himself into some trouble with the Feds, got himself executed, was indeed the Messiah.

Someone, something, some force probably moved the rock, and then moved the corpse.  Jesus is alleged to have reappeared to a chosen few (none of whom were reported to be using any of the little known state-of-the-art hallucinogens) and, in the early part of the first century, at least one small enclave on our planet had found its savior.  The curse of the Garden of Eden had been lifted; the Jews would no longer be enslaved and forced to build pyramids; and death had been replaced by eternal life.  Those who believed that Christ was the savior became Christians and those who said that this guy who came riding into Jerusalem on a donkey just couldn’t possibly be the Son of God remained Jewish, still hoping that some other descendant of King David might yet happen along soon and fulfill Scriptural prognostications.

That was a bit of a prelude to 5000 years of religious history that I did NOT learn in the Seminary  What do I believe?  Pretty much what I did as I entered the Seminary in 1992: the Bible is historical anecdotes organized to present some religious themes that may or may not be supported by context or fact.  I believe that some of what is written can provide a smattering of relief to some who are troubled by life as much as they are by the prospects of their death.

The New Testament is very much a book of persuasion, “rhetoric” as we were taught in class, written by first-century theologians hell-bent on selling Christianity and displacing Judaism.  To support their case that Jesus did indeed fulfill some of the prophesies offered in the Hebrew Scriptures, evangelists placed on the lips of Jesus some of the words put forth by the earliest Biblical scholars.  One of the first recorded cases of lip-synching.

As an alleged theologian, the biggest problem that I’ve observed over the years has been the confusion between the concepts of God and Santa Claus.  I’m sure that you learned growing up that God was watching all, knew when you were doing something wrong, had a list, was checking it twice, and was going to find out who was naughty or nice.  This same God/Santa Claus could be “petitioned” (yes, Jim Morrison, the concept of “Petitioning the Lord with prayer!”) and asked that we be forgiven our sins and our hairy palms, and that he intercede and help the Mets win another world series, that I pass the test I never studied for, and that I win the lottery.

I don’t see God as Santa, although most people who believe in God do envision him that way, an old guy with a white beard, sitting on a cloud with a clipboard and a medium point Bic pen.  And to those who say that God will answer all prayers, let them be aware that some of His answers may include: “No, not now, or figure it out yourself.”

I recently heard of a survey that indicated that nuns who used the word “joy” and “happiness” were shown to live ten years longer than those who did not.  Although I am not a nun and the word “joy” is not often in my vocabulary, I decided to change the ring on my cell phone to “Ode to Joy.”  My point (yes, I do have a point) is that, apart from all the superstition and mindless ritual associated with religion, there may be some benefits to certain aspects of spirituality and prayer.  Some of those benefits may be due to the power of suggestion, the undoing of psychosomatic trauma, or some ion transfer or shifts in magnetic fields that we may not yet fully comprehend.

I took a course in Church doctrine that was taught by the rector of the Seminary who was about to leave his post and go back to running a parish.  He was a brilliant scholar, having studied in Rome about the time of Vatican II, and it was his last class before he left; so his interaction with the class was a bit less formal than it might have normally been.  I asked him about intercessory prayer and he said that it primarily benefits those who are doing the praying, giving them some form of inner strength, some sense of purpose when things are looking on the glum side.  This acquired inner strength can by itself work miracles, but he agreed with my non-Santa theory.

I see ancient religion as more than occasionally trying to find some primitive–almost childlike– explanations for life forces and phenomena that people didn’t understand then nor may not fully understand now. Modern religion seems to be perpetually trying to catch up with modern science and culture and, by all measurements, seems to be losing that race.  Speaking of magnetic fields, going into the Seminary, I harbored a theory that, if humans had a soul, it very likely was in the form of a magnetic field.  And my final course in Christology seemed to espouse a theory from noted Catholic theologian Karl Rahner who basically stated something along the same lines. Hence, the concept of an enduring soul may be wishful thinking or science fiction. Or maybe this theory or others like it just haven’t been figured out yet.

The benefits of prayer may very well take on more characteristics of science that we just don’t yet understand, e.g., more similar to sonic or electronic wave transfer than anything having to do with intercession from a heavenly source.  Similarly, the healing miracles attributed to Christ in the Bible may very well have just been mere foreshadowing of the medical miracles we read about today, where science helps the blind to see, helps the lame to walk, or a patient with cancer to miraculously heal with the help of medicine or inner strength or forces unknown.

When I pray, I try to forget any preconceived notions that I may have brought along with me to adulthood from childhood.  No Santa, no clipboard, no magic wand, no clicking of my heels, no man behind the curtain.  I appeal to the inner workings of me, the nebulous life force that somehow started and keeps ticking in ways and for reasons that aren’t truly clear to me. I also am sometimes hopeful that, through prayer, some positive vibes or some mini ion-storm might somehow affect someone I care about in some productive ways.

I don’t know whether changing the ring on my cell phone will make me more joyous and consequently live longer. I don’t know if a focused, inward, prayerful appeal on your part or by those around you will have any effect on whatever you’re going through.  But it probably can’t hurt.


Kaitlyn O’Brien’s Award-Winning Speech About Saying “No”

Posted in Kaitlyn O'Brien by frthom on May 14, 2017

By Kaitlyn O’Brien

May Kate-2502017

Did you know that 200,00 people die each year from smoking?  This year in D.A.R.E. (which stands for “Drug Abuse Resistance Education”) I have learned so much, and I pledge to stay away from smoking and alcohol.  I also pledge to use from I learned in D.A.R.E. this year to make good decisions throughout my life and to stand up to bullying confidently.

D.A.R.E. this year has been so much fun, but the thing I love most about D.A.R.E. is that, even while having tons of fun, we are still learning so much.  The most interesting thing I learned this year is that 50,000 people die each year from second-hand smoke.  This means that people often die just for being around other people who smoke.  A person could have never smoked a cigarette in his or her life.  This really surprised me and opened my eyes to the fact that smoking affects more than just the people who smoke.  This is something that I never would have thought before, and it made me very sad and sympathetic to know that people could have never smoked in their lives have to suffer as much as those who do smoke.


Another thing I learned in D.A.R.E. this year is how to avoid a bad situation.  The strategy of avoiding a bad situation is to stay away from something or someone bad or unsafe. An example of avoiding the situation is if you got invited to a party where you know there is going to be smoking, drugs, or anything of that sort.  Instead of going, you spend the night at home. This is a very helpful strategy for staying away from tempting situations.

The very last important thing I learned in D.A.R.E. this year is how to say “no.”  Officer Mark—the adviser for our D.A.R.E. program—showed us tons of different strategies to resist and say no when someone offers you something you know you should not take.  My favorite strategy is to change the subject.  An example of this is when a friend asks you a cigarette at a park, a way of changing the subject would be to say, “No let’s go play soccer instead.” This strategy is important because it gets the focus off of the bad thing and on to a new and better topic.

After learning about the D.A.R.E. decision making model in D.A.R.E. class this year, I often use it in everyday situations.  Whether it’s making the right choice, or being nice to my brother, or even standing up for those who are being bullied, the D.A.R.E. decision making model is a plan of steps made for making decisions.

The first step of the D.A.R.E. decision making model is define.  This means to describe the problem, challenge, or opportunity.  The second step of the model is assess. This is when you think about your choices and the consequences of each choice.  The third step is respond.  This step means to make a choice using the facts and information you have gathered. The final step is the D.A.R.E. decision making is evaluate.  This step means to review your decision and make sure you made a good choice. This step is my favorite because just in case you made a bad decision you can always go back and fix it—no harm done.

After doing D.A.R.E. for so many weeks now, I’ve learned so much about how to make safe and responsible choices.  One thing I’ve learned is strength in numbers.  This strategy means to hang out with people who are non-users.  This strategy is very helpful for staying away from alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes.  Another strategy I learned in D.A.R.E. this year was about styles of communication.  We learned two bad ways to communicate and one effective way.  The two bad ways to communicate that we learned were 1) unsure/shy and 2) aggressive.  The effective, the good way we learned to communicate was with confidence.  We learned that when saying “no” or resisting something, confidence is the best way to communicate.

D.A.R.E. this year was a life –changing experience for me and I feel so lucky to have been a part of such an amazing program.  I truly learned so much about how to stay away from drinking, drugs, and smoking.  Thank you Officer Mark for teaching me so much this year and always making me and all the students laugh! I can’t wait for seventh grade D.A.R.E.

Robert F. Kennedy-What Might Have Been

Posted in Politics by frthom on June 5, 2016

Back in June of 1968, in a small New York Avenue storefront close to the “Soundtracks” music store, was the Huntington, Long Island headquarters for Robert Kennedy’s presidential campaign. There was a collective surge of excitement among the campaign volunteers on the night of June 5th. Their candidate was going to win another primary, this one in California and, even better, the volunteers were scheduled to meet Kennedy and his wife Ethel during a fund-raising appearance at a home in Lloyd Harbor the following week-end.

That night, as he was taking his leave from the Ambassador Hotel in Los Angeles after his victory speech, Robert Kennedy was wounded by an assassin, and hours later on June 6th died of his wounds, in the eyes of some, the victim of a terrorist attack.

There were many sides to Robert Kennedy. He may be remembered as a young attorney in the 1950’s supporting a delusional Senator Joseph McCarthy. He may be remembered as a self-righteous attorney general who hounded organized crime despite or because of his father’s underworld roots. He may also be remembered as the ruthless alter-ego, the political pit bull for his brother John.

But Robert Kennedy should primarily be remembered for having gone through a pronounced political–perhaps spiritual–metamorphosis during his later years as the U.S. Senator from New York. He had been humbled by his brother’s death as he spoke out passionately and convincingly during his aborted presidential campaign in support of the impoverished, the disenfranchised, the oppressed.

Robert Kennedy often quoted the Greek tragedian Aeschylus, who said that politics was a “noble” profession. During the nearly fifty years since Robert Kennedy’s death and his short-circuited attempts to transform the American conscience, there have been few signs of anything “noble” at any level in American politics.

Since June 1968, there have been occasional flashes of Kennedy’s political vision, but moreover there has been a pervading culture of death and cynicism since an assassin’s bullet took away a leader who seemed truly capable of the fulfilling the words, “…I dream things that never were and ask why not?”

Robert Kennedy-What Might Have Been

Posted in Uncategorized by frthom on June 5, 2016


“I like to quote Aesceles who said that politics is a noble profession.”  Robert F. Kennedy.

Back in June of 1968,  in a small New York Avenue storefront close to where the  “Soundtracks” music store  stood for so many years,  was the Huntington headquarters for Bobby Kennedy’s presidential campaign.  Glenn, now a local businessman, remembers working in that office during the days just prior to Kennedy’s assassination.  A young man, fresh out of college, Glenn remembers the electrical excitement felt by all the campaign volunteers the night of the California primary.  Their candidate was going to win and, what was ever better was that he and his wife Ethel were due to make a fund-raising appearance at a home in Lloyd Harbor that week-end.  It was everyone’s expectation that they would soon be meeting the late-coming favorite in race for the White House.

Bobby Kennedy was shot that night and died the next day of his wounds. The United States has never been the same, seemingly suffering from the desensitizing process  that comes after one too many losses.

There were many sides to Bobby Kennedy.  He may be remembered as a young attorney in the 1950’s supporting as a Senator Joe McCarthy as a Red-baiter.  He may be remembered as a righteous hypocrite who pounded organized crime despite his father’s roots as a boot-legger.  He may be remembered as  the ruthless alter-ego, political hatchet-man for his brother John.

But Bobby Kennedy may also be remembered for having gone through a pronounced metamorphosis during his last years on this planet.  He went through a born-again phase reminiscent of Thomas Merton and future saints Francesco di Bernardone and Aurelius Augustinus the latter who, during a debauched youth, is said to have asked God to “Make me holy, Lord, but not yet.”  Kennedy made that sort of transformation during his 1968 foreshortened campaign for President as he spoke out passionately and convincingly in support of the impoverished, the disenfranchised, the oppressed.  He was humbled by his brother’s death an seemingly became a proponent of liberation theology which suggests that the poor may be blessed but do not have tolerate injustice.

It was during a television interview with David Frost that he first said that “politics is a noble profession.”  Within a few months of the interview, within a a few minutes of winning the 1968 California Presidential Primary he was assassinated.

During the nearly thirty years that have gone by since Robert Kennedy’s statement  there has been little sign of anything noble at any level of politics in America.  Watergate, Abscam, Iran-Contra,  Whitewater, are just a few of the obvious headline grabbers over the past quarter century.  Rarely  can you pick up a newspaper or listen to a newscast without hearing about some public official being investigated, fired, or indicated.  Noble indeed…

Ode to the Man From Hickory Hill (an excerpt)

“On to Chicago and let’s win there!”

Those words so empty now.

Oh no, it can’t be true, tell me why, tell me how.

But wait, I’ve seen the killers before,  I can call them each by name.

They are envy, ignorance, fear, and hate

We only have ourselves to blame.


Claudia’s Haunted Eyes

Posted in Uncategorized by frthom on April 20, 2010

Van Allen’s Belt is falling,
To surround the city’s haze.
The calendar’s growing smaller,
As months turn into days.
Vitamins smelling rancid,
While the town clerk sits and cries.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s beautiful eyes


The pencil point is broken,
As snow melts in July.
The novice knows his job too well,
A drowning lifeguard soon may die.
It’s plain to see that Hector
Fails much more than he tries.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s saddened eyes.


The gin-mill’s selling candy,
To Chinese garbage-men.
The captain cannot spare the time,
To look where he has been.
The dresser drawer is leaking,
The closet’s full of spies.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s puzzled eyes.


A lug wrench jams the back door lock,
A blind man cuts the grass.
The wet-nurse chews tobacco,
Before and after class.
The sunset starts a new day,
As we chase away green flies.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s frightened eyes.


A baseball sheds its cover,
A grave-digger cracks a smile.
His Uncle Edmond rose at dawn,
Just to spit on the Miracle Mile.
The Venetian blind is rusted,
Since the Bishop told those lies.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s weary eyes.


The gypsy black-man dances,
For a Canadian dime or two.
Edsel hides in De-troit town,
Away from a relentless shrew.
Bi-focals made of isinglass,
Worn by a drunken narc who sighs.
Nobody knows the love that sleeps
In Claudia’s haunted eyes.


The end of the world is over,
Love can’t win this war.
A hooded queen shoots basketballs,
So high she can’t keep score.
I find this all can’t mean too much,
Beyond what she denies.
Until they see desolation,
In Claudia’s weeping eyes.


Celibacy and the Catholic Priest

Posted in God, religion, theology by frthom on March 30, 2010

By clicking the link at the conclusion of this blog, you will find the complete thesis upon which this blog is based. The paper about celibacy and the Catholic priesthood was part of an independent study project that I had worked on with the guidance of a priest that I had met while reporting a story about the Seminary of the Immaculate Conception in Lloyd Harbor, NY for the New York Times in 1985.

At the time that I wrote the Times article, the priest was a scripture professor of note at the Seminary, a columnist for the Long Island Catholic weekly newspaper, and was serving weekend masses at a parish in Centerport. He had just completed his doctoral thesis about the proportionately large number of sexually conflicted men who became priests. Subsequent to the publication of his thesis, the priest was summarily removed from his teaching position at the Seminary and was reassigned to a parish.

In context with today’s perspective on priestly sexual dysfunction, the priest probably would have been viewed as a whistle-blower, who had been punished by a diocese with its own very serious personnel problems. He resigned the priesthood a short time after his reassignment, he got married, raised kids, and became a practicing psychologist in Suffolk County on Long Island.

Although my own thesis on celibacy is imperfect in many ways and is certainly somewhat dated–having been written years prior to the more recent furor over the abuse of children by Catholic priests– it may nonetheless provide some insight into the pathology within the Church infrastructure and a foreshadowing of what was to come.

Some individuals may question the direct relevance of clerical abstinence to the issue of sexual abuse of children by priests. However, at the time I wrote the paper and still today, I placed a great deal of faith in statistics which suggest that the celibacy requirement dramatically limits the potential diversity of the priesthood and seems to attract an overwhelming number of immature men who seem somewhat confused about their sexuality. While the number of priests being accused of sexual abuse is a relatively small percentage, there does seem to be a preponderance of closeted homosexuality, secrecy, cover-ups, and human resource mismanagement in far too many parishes and dioceses across the U.S. Such conditions create an atmosphere that permeates the true essence of priestly function and renders many clerics incapable of following Christ’s edicts grounded with honesty and integrity.

An aging priesthood and the influx of foreign priests–who barely speak English let alone grasp the culture of the people they are supposed to be inspiring–are causing further estrangement between the church and American parishioners. I am still convinced that the Catholic Church in the U.S. can heal many of it present wounds by welcoming back as deacons previously excommunicated priests (as well as those having been laicized) who gave up the priesthood to marry and to raise children. The concept of allowing women to become Catholic priests is, of course, another if not more direct solution; but one that is much too much to expect from the incumbent papacy and its selective embrace of John Paul II’s Ordinatio Sacerdotalis. Meanwhile, the celibacy issue may continue to drive more nails into the coffin of a stolid and sinful church infrastructure that Jesus never envisioned nor would he ever have condoned.


There’s Something About Mary

Posted in God, religion, theology by frthom on March 30, 2010

In all four gospels of the New Testament, as Jesus’ fate is secured and his passion begins, a woman comes to him and annoints him with a precious ointment, an act of great significance in Old and New Testament times. Those are the only consistent specifics that we have about that event because it varies significantly in each gospel.

We do not know for certain who the woman was and what was her specific intent. We do not know for certain whether it was Christ’s feet or his head that was annointed because it happens both ways in the different gospels. And, much to the chagrin of feminists, we do not know why the act did not receive the kind of recognition or import that Jesus gave it in Mark (14:9) when he said, “And truly I say to you, whenever the gospel is preached in the whole world, what she has done will be told in memory of her.”

Matthew’s Gospel portrays the anointing in similar fashion to Mark, while Luke paints a portrait, not of a prophet but a sinful, wicked female, groveling in her search for forgiveness. It is in John’s Gospel that the woman is finally given a name, Mary of Bethany, the sister of Lazarus and Martha.

Down through the centuries, hundreds, perhaps thousands of books have been written about women in the New Testament, with special attention paid to Mary, Jesus’ mother, and Mary Magdalene, a special woman in Jesus’ life, debated to be either saint or sinner or a bit of both. Little has been directed toward Mary of Bethany who may have been most representative of the woman around Jesus in the New Testament.

It is Mary of Bethany who anoints Jesus, quietly assuming the role of a prophet in the first vivid foreshadowing of his fate. It is she who demonstrates the proper spiritual perspective in reference to the man who, for many, will become the savior of the human race, and revealed in subsequent theology as the Son of God. It is she who is thought by some to have become Jesus’ most effective evangelist.

The lack of attention paid to Mary of Bethany aggravates University of Notre Dame professor Elisabeth Schussler Fiorenza in her book–seen from a feminist perspective, In Memory of Her. Dr. Fiorenza says that male chroniclers and interpreters of New Testament events cannot bring themselves to admit the important roles that women played as disciples, as proclaimers of Jesus’ miraculous resurrection, or, in the case of Mark’s unidentified woman, the highly honored role of the prophetic annointer of a King.

“In the passion account of Mark’s Gospel, three disciples figure prominently: on one hand, Judas who betrays Jesus, and Peter who denies him and on the other hand, the unnamed woman who annoints Jesus,” said Dr. Fiorenza. “While the stories of Judas and Peter are engraved in the memory of Christians, the story of this woman is virtually forgotten.”